“I’m Under Pressure To Marry My Late Sister’s Husband”

Marry

I have heard and read stories about young women being asked to marry their late sister’s husband for one reason or the other but, I never anticipated it would happen to me. I am the second girl and last child of my family. My elder sister, Eunice, met and got married to Andrew, her husband, when I was just in Junior Secondary School (JSS) 3. She is eight years older than me. Six years after marriage, there was no child. They did a series of test, but they were both…

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Help! Raped At Age 9, Now Married But I Don’t Have Urge For Sex

Raped

Dear Angela, I remember I was just nine-years-old (9 years) when I was raped by my ‘uncle’ and this continued until I turned 12. I said ‘uncle’ because he was a friend of the family and my parents trusted him. I couldn’t tell anyone because he keeps threatening to kill me if I mentioned it to anyone. However, when I turned 12, my aunt (mum’s younger sister) came to spend some days with us and one of such days, she noticed that with so much anger and hatred in my…

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My Best Friend Stopped Talking To Me Because I Slept With Her Brother

Best friend

Dear Angela, Sussy and I have been best friends since our childhood days. But our friendship ended the day she found out that I slept with her elder brother. Although he is not married but he has a baby mama and obviously she wants him to marry the lady. I knew that he has always liked me, I like him too but I never led him on because of my best friend. He told me he wished things were different as he is deeply in love with me. One evening,…

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So Disheartening! Brenda and Benjamin Are Not My Children

As I sat on the sofa to watch the three children play in the sitting room, I was convinced in my spirit that the last two (Brenda and Benjamin) were not mine. I know you people will think I don’t know what I am saying or I am insane, but wait until you hear my story Emmauella was the love of my life. She has everything a man desires in a wife. After two years of dating, I decided to marry her coupled with the fact that my family members…

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I’m Entwined In A Relationship With My Boyfriend’s Father (3)

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This is the concluding part of the story of Vero who is in an entwined relationship with both father and son. On his return, Chris started working in his father’s company. In fact, he became a member of the board of trustees. He too started spoiling me with money and gifts. When I told my mother about Chris, she quietly said, “I warned you not to date Chief but you thought I was old school. Vero, you alone will face the consequences of whatever you are doing. I have washed…

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I’m Entwined In A Relationship With My Boyfriend’s Father (2)

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This is the continuation of the story of Vero and the men in her life. A month later, he bought me a car, gives me N250,000 every week for my upkeep and we started spending most weekends together in exclusive hotels in and outside town. He tells his wife that he is going on ‘business trips just to be with me. I knew I had ‘stolen’ the weekends he is supposed to spend with his wife, Aunty Emilia, but there was nothing I could do because I was now enjoying…

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Help! Everybody Is Busy Planning My Life

Dear Angela I am the only child and son of my parents. I presently run my father’s construction company as he will be retiring in the next six to eight months. I have actually been so busy that I have not had time for love even though I’m 30 years-old. I just found out that everyone around me is busy planning my life – my marriage to be precise. While my parents are trying to match-make me with their friend’s daughter, my cousin is also trying to hook with up…

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Reason Why I Don’t Enjoy Sex with My Husband (2)

When I got home, I told myself, “One rape in a life time is bad enough but to go through it thrice was unbearable. There and then, I vowed that I will kill any man who tries it again.” I never failed to constantly ask myself why life has been so unfair to me. I decided to put it behind me and make something out of my life. Today I am happily married to Raphael but I am scared of sex and I hardly enjoy it even if I want…

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Reason Why I Don’t Enjoy Sex with My Husband (1)

A lot of young girls and women have been raped at one time or the other. But because of the shame, pain and stigma associated with it, the victims hardly talk about it. My name is Anabel, I still remember that fateful day in the village when I had to go and fetch firewood alone because my best friend Mercy took ill. I was just 13 years-old then. On my way back from fetching the firewood, I was waylaid and raped by one of the notorious boys, Nnamdi, who had…

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Abomination! My Husband Deflowered And Impregnated Our Daughter Twice

The day I found out that Eno, my first daughter, was pregnant, I was so devastated. She was just 16 years old and was in Senior Secondary 1 (SS1). I cried and asked myself how I was going to face the shame and humility this would bring. That was in mid-2012. Before this incidence, my family was a happy one. My husband Edet was an assistant manager in a private company while I sell food stuff at the central market in Calabar. We are blessed with three beautiful daughters –…

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