We have all been on our fair number of first dates. Some of them went well and some of them had a not so happy ending. When it comes to first dates there are some “do`s” and “don’ts” that you must keep in mind.
We are not telling you that you shouldn’t be yourself, but certain things like being late or refusing to split a bill, are just a matter common courtesy and shouldn’t happen, especially on the first date. That is why we have compiled these five (5) tips that will actually help you be successful and make sure that there will be a second one.
Put away your phone
This is the golden rule of first dates. Both you and your date should put aside your mobile phones. Checking your phone obsessively can be a deal breaker for a lot of guys. It is especially rude to stare down at your phone when someone is trying to strike a conversation with you. It is absolutely forbidden to post status updates on Facebook or tweets while you are on a date. That just gives off the impression that you are not interested or maybe you are just bored with your date.
Be on time
Don’t believe in that fashionably late tactic. Out of all the helpful dating tips for women, this is the most important one. No one likes to wait, especially not on first dates. It really isn’t hard to show up on time. If you take long to prepare for a date, start early even if that means two hours before you have to leave home. It is better to arrive on time and make a good impression than to come late and maybe ruin your date. After all, how would you feel if he was late?
Don’t just go with it, speak up
There is no reason you should compromise on the place for your first date. If your date suggests a pub and you are not a drinker, don’t just go with it, speak up for yourself and suggest another place. It will bother him more if you complain after you’ve already sat down. This also applies when it comes to ordering foods or drinks. If he is ordering for you, don’t say you don’t care and then later complain about the order.
Be closer to him
The closer you are to someone the more likely you are to develop a connection with them. If you are on a date, don’t sit opposite each other, try to sit next to one another. It is important to respect one’s personal space at the very beginning of a date, later on if everything goes well the dynamic and body language will change gradually, making room for a more romantic interaction.
When the bill comes be ready to chip in
This is a controversial topic for many, but for us, it is very clear. When the bill comes, wait for your date’s reaction, if you are too eager to pay, most guys will feel embarrassed. So after he offers to pay, ask if he would like to split the bill, and if he says no, do not continue to push the topic, just say thank you and let him be the gentleman that he wants to be. On the other hand, if he asks to split a bill be ready to chip in, just don’t openly frown, it’s not that big of a deal, keep in mind that it is still the first date and you are still getting to know each other.
There are a lot more dating tips, but these are the most important ones. First dates can be stressful, but when it comes to how successful they are, it mostly depends on how the two of you choose to act. By speaking up for yourself you are showing that you have your own thoughts and opinions. Choosing not to use your phone during the date means that you are interested in what the other person has to say and that you are willing to get to know them better. Finally, being relaxed and not making a big deal when it comes to paying the bill can all be key to a successful first and an even better second date.
Peter Minkoff is a guest writer.